Those of us who live in the crucible of suffering and daily walk the path of pain are not helped by well meaning pious platitudes, trite answers, and denial disguised as faith. We are better helped by staring the monster in the face and calling it what it is.
Suffering is Misery
It is sadness, sorrow and pain.
Don't call it what it is not. Suffering is a taste of hell on earth.
Suffering brings with it limitations, sometimes disability. Don’t dress it up with politically correct insulting language that suggests I cannot cope with reality.
Suffering brings real disability. The disabled are not "differently-abled". These are limitations, not abilities. These are not good gifts; they are horrible. Only responding to them redemptively and offering them to God brings any good. The good is in the response, not in the so-called "gift".
Suffering is Merciless
without mercy, but
not without meaning.
You are human. You live in a fallen world full of thistles and thorns which tear at your sensitive skin. You feel pain. You get perplexed. It all piles on and you are overwhelmed. And it comes; sure as the nightfall - it comes to one and all. It is inevitable.
Every good gift comes with its share of suffering. With the light there always comes the shadow. Marriage has its blessings and laughter, and its problems and tears. Friendship brings with it moments of disagreement and distress. Parenthood is wonderful, and produces as much sorrow and pain as it does wonder and joy. Health feels great but it is not permanent in any of us. The more you enjoy the blessing the greater the pain of the loss. Suffering is without mercy, but not without meaning.
Suffering is not Meaningless
Suffering refines our character in ways joy and peace simply cannot. Suffering brings opportunities of which blessings are barren. Suffering takes us beyond the far reaches of joy. Suffering shatters the horizon and allows us to enter heaven's reserves hidden from the merely blessed.
Don't waste your sufferings. Respond to them redemptively. Turn the curse and its effects into a passageway to grace and glory. Trite as it sounds you will become either better or bitter. Our destiny is determined by how we choose to respond. Suffer well, suffer redemptively and enter eternal joys.
Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which comes through faith in Christ, the righteousness from God that depends on faith— that I may know him and the power of his resurrection, and may share his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, that by any means possible I may attain the resurrection from the dead. Philippians 3:8 - 11 ESV.